I want to just be done.
everydayiwanttochange asked: Hi I noticed that you lived in Kansas at some point. We're you born there? I'm asking bc I'm trying to figure out if I first have to have bottom surgery to change the sex on my birth certificate. I'm finding different info saying that I do but some sites say no. I'm not sure which is outdated.
I was only in Kansas because I was stationed there from 2011-2013, as I am active duty Army. I was born in California, and just recently changed my legal residency to Tennessee. Currently, the state of Kansas does not allow you to change your gender marker on your birth certificate as far as I know (along with Tennessee, Oklahoma, Ohio, and Idaho). You can change it on a driver’s license though. Most states however require you to be on hormones for a certain amount of time, but the requirement for sexual reassignment surgery varies from state to state. Here’s a link to those states and their requirements.
I only changed my residency to Tennessee to make it easier to change my name, as I am stationed on the border between Kentucky and Tennessee (my previous state of legal residency was North Carolina). I will be changing my gender marker once I’ve gotten out of the military, in a state that allows me to do so (wherever I basically end up moving to get a job after I get out).
All I have to do is update my car registration, but when I moved from Kansas to Tennessee and reregistered my car in Tennessee, the bank that holds the title to my car never released the title to the state of Tennessee, even though I did this over 6 months ago. So that’s a phone call I need to make. I can’t update my car registration with my new name until that gets sorted out. But all that requires is a phone call and I should have it fixed by the end of the month.
I’ll handle changing my military records to reflect my new name starting Monday.
In regards to the post going around where people are hating on Sarah Silverman over the “sperm aren’t babies” thing.
I get it, Silverman is a little crass and over the top, but a lot of people are taking the photo set out of context;
It was in regards to a pro-choice video spoof type thing. In the clip, she’s visited by Jesus and has a conversation about basically the difference between a fetus and a baby, and pokes fun at the idea that sperm and zygotes, while comparable on the same level in regards to the bodies that produce them, aren’t the same as a human life (i.e., cells don’t equal baby). She is poking fun at pro-lifers who say that zygotes are people by saying that sperm are people and using their logic against them. She’s not actually hating on male masturbation, and while I understand she appears to be, she’s not actually. She’s making a comparison in the form of a joke to call out flawed logic by extreme sects of pro-life ways of thinking.
The results showed that both boys and girls were able to crawl the same degree of incline. However, the predictions of the mothers were correct within one degree for the boys and underestimated their daughter’s ability by nine degrees.
What this shows is that the presumption that boys are more physical causes parents to encourage their boys more in physical activities while cautioning their girls. This further translates into providing more opportunities for boys to be physical and fewer for girls. The result?
Boys actually do develop stronger physical skills than girls. But not because of anything innate or biological, but rather because of the gender roles that the parents subconsciously projected onto their babies."
The experiment mentioned is available in full HERE.